Why Should a Pre-Marital Investigation Precede Any Marriage?
What is a Pre-Marital Investigation?
A pre-marital investigation is an investigation carried out by a private agency. It involves a thorough background check of one of the fiancés. A typical pre-marital investigation is ordered by one of the fiancées or by their parents.
It’s hard to suspect anything bad about your fiancée, but later on your suspicions can come back and destroy your marriage – or even your life. By burying your suspicions and refusing a pre-marital investigation, you are either giving paranoia a chance to return later and ruin your marriage, or giving scam artists a chance to take everything you own and drive you into debt.
While enacting a pre-marital investigation might be a hard decision, it ensures that the marriage is not doomed even before it commences. It also protects you against marriage scams, destroyed reputation and other worries.
Furthermore, even though a pre-marital investigation can look like an uncomfortable thing, in reality, it is carried out by undercover investigators and no one except you will know it has ever happened.
So the only thing that can prevent you from enacting a pre-marital investigation is cost of hiring an undercover investigator – but even if you hire the most expensive one available, it’s still less that you will pay if the marriage ends up in divorce or turns out to be a scam.
When you absolutely MUST conduct a pre-marital investigation?
A pre-marital investigation is always a good idea. However, there are several factors which make a pre-marital investigation absolutely compulsory:
• A large disparity of income between fiancées
• A large disparity of age between fiancées
• Suspicions of insincere motives of your fiancée
• Several failed marriages of one of the fiancées
• A known criminal history of one of the fiancées
• One of the fiancés refuses to introduce the other to her family or friends
• A brief period of acquaintance before the marriage
All these issues ring an alarm bell. In some cases, they virtually scream fraud. And if any of these factors are present, you should ask a private investigation agency for a pre-marital investigation.
What can a pre-marital investigation uncover?
Usually a pre-marital investigation will involve a full background check. Furthermore, you can ask to run background checks on every member of your fiancé’s family, or any of her friends that strike you as suspicious. It isn’t paranoia – you are making a decision that will make a huge impact on your life. It’s best to enact a pre-marital investigation and be informed.
On the bright side, a pre-marital investigation can uncover facts about your fiancée that will let you help her or him to become a happier person by settling past or present problems that were concealed from you. Or maybe something as innocent as knowing your fiancée wanted a specific toy as a child will come up – surprise her with it!
The following are only some of the things that a pre-marital investigation can reveal:
• A history of failed marriages and divorces. Be especially wary if in each of these divorces your fiancé has ended up with a large part of her spouse’s property
• Children from previous marriages – or children born out of wedlock
• A criminal history
• A history of substance abuse
• A history of serious mental or physical illnesses
• Bad employment history
• A dishonorable discharge from the armed forces
• A history of criminal offences, substance abuse, genetic disease and suchlike in her family
All of these factors can result in unforeseen complications later in your matrimonial life. That is why it is important to run a pre-marital investigation before marriage. It is not a sign of paranoia or not loving your fiancée – it is a sign that you care about your future together, as a family.